Do You Make it Grow or You Just Sow?

SubhanAllaah ❤️!
A few days ago, I came across something so beautiful that I must share it with you all.

OK. First thing first.
Can you see that long trailing vine with heart-shaped leaves touching the ground in the photo? (Say, MashaAllaah 🙂)

Last year when we moved to our new apartment, I decided to replace all artificial plants with the real ones. Once I was done with all potted plants, a small shoot of Pothos was left behind. And, I could also see an empty ledge over the wall. This not-so-strong ledge over the wall couldn’t take the weight of a heavy plant. I also had a spare golden vase with me. Though, the vase had no drainage hole I grafted the tiny shoot with some soil thinking, “Anyways, it won’t survive long”.
Till I would buy something else to keep on the shelf, it could serve the purpose.

And, I must admit that among all pots in my home this plant got the least attention. (‘Anyways, it won’t survive long’ Thought! 🤷‍♀️)

However, to my surprise, the vine started showing spurt after some time. It grew beyond my expectation and very soon it became so long that I had to cut it fearing it might exhaust the limited soil in the pot. I cut it. It grew again. I wrapped it around the ledge. And, again it is touching the ground (say, MashaAllaah 🙂).

OK. Now the second part of the story.
I was reading surah al-Waqiah from the Qur’an, facing Qiblah, where this green vine was right in front of my gaze. And, I was repeating and repeating the following verses…

Do you not see what you sow?
Is it you that make it grow, or are We the Grower…
Do you not see what you sow?
Is it you that make it grow, or are We the Grower…

SubhanAllaah ❤️!
As if I was reading about the journey of this beautiful Potho plant on my wall. I just grafted the small shoot. It was Allaah Who grew it inspite of things not so favorable.

Allaah Subhanahu Ta’aala mentions in surah Waqiah:

أَفَرَءَيۡتُم مَّا تَحۡرُثُونَ • ءَأَنتُمۡ تَزۡرَعُونَهُ ۥۤ أَمۡ نَحۡنُ ٱلزَّٲرِعُونَ
▪️Do you not see what you sow? Is it you that make it grow, or are We the Grower?
(Then, He mentions…)
Were it Our will, We could crumble it to dry pieces.
and you would be Tafakkahun.
(Saying:) “We are indeed Mughramun (ruined)! Nay, but we are deprived!” ▪️

SubhanAllaah ❤️!
There are two wonderful lessons for all of us.

SELF SERVING BIAS. Have you ever heard of it? It’s a common type of cognitive bias that has been extensively studied in social psychology. It is a human tendency to attribute positive events to their own character but to attribute negative events to external factors.

When the plant grows…
“Oh! Wow! I made it.”

When it doesn’t…
“Alas! It didn’t grow.”
“Life is not fair. I am ruined. Mughramun. Deprived.”

Two more human traits we can see coming in light here.

To attribute negative events to external factors and to LAMENT over the loss just a bit TOO MUCH to the extent of rumination (read about the word Mughramun in the ayah).
Isn’t it so true?

Self-Serving Bias is a dangerous thing. If we can’t keep it in control, we can’t correct ourselves. And, it starts with the words we utter.

Ibn Jarir recorded that Abu Hurayrah (RA) said that the Messenger of Allah (may peace and blessings be upon him) said (regarding your crops), “Do not say, “Zara`tu (I made it grew),” but say, “Harathtu (I sowed tilled).”

All good is from Allaah Subhanahu Ta’aala only.

Isn’t it amazing?
How beautiful are the analogies and metaphors in the Book of Allaah, The Always All-Wise.
Through the example of a plant we just learned an important aspect of social psychology. And, what is even more wonderful is something in the chapter (al-Hadeed) right after this chapter; something that boosts this lesson even more.
(some other time in sha Allaah)

And, yes! I cut the vine again to graft somewhere else. And, I hope Allaah Ta’ala Will Make it kiss the ground again ❤️.

Sisterly Yours
The Might of Pen
(Writing ‘Tales & Thoughts’ fusing ‘Mind & Soul’ for ‘Life, Death & Beyond…’)

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